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Single mom with kids..almost homeless

momndawson started this conversation

I am a single mom with 2 beautiful children. A 3 yr old daughter and an 8 yr old son. I lost my job a couple months ago and have been unemployed til about a week ago.I havent paid my September or October rent and am being evicted. I have no family at all. I called the local shelters to see where we could go when we get thrown out..and found out that the only shelter in my area that allows women with children is on a 6 month waiting list!! We have nowhere to go!! ive been to EVERY social service organization here and have been turned down for any assistance with paying my rent to avoid being evicted because I was fired from my job! I have a job now and would be able to start catching up on my bills...but in the meantime i only needed to be able to pay the 2 months i am already behind..and there is no way to do that. I dont know what to do! I have always busted my butt working hard for my kids..have been in management for the last 18 years..yet now that Ive been unemployed we are about to lose everything that we have. I dont know how to tell my 8 yr old that in a couple of weeks we will possibly be living in our truck..this will devastate him! We moved to the state that we are in in January because my ex was abusive...I tried to move here to give my kids and I a fresh start and a better future away from the abuse...HA! When i got here I tried to get help from a local domestic violence organization but was told that since I had gotten away with no help that they cant help me either..part of me is actually considering going back to him just to avoid my children being homeless..and i know that would be a terrible decision. I just dont know what to do..and i have no options anymore. I need help so badly..and i have nowhere to turn and no one to talk to..I am so alone here..

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paige71
go to way of hope in murfreesboro tn. they meet at 430 st the journey home and take women and children to area church shelters, u will not be turned away
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ange3401
I almost forgot..you must suffer to get ahead..the key is to save and make better decesions.The more you make,,,the happier you are.Living in an apt will get you NOWHERE!Livingin a nice rv..5th wheel..airstream older..large is nice.Get rid of your junk and you can move it when ever you want!Look on Craigs List..everyday and make CASH OFFERS or look for things that need fixing up inside.You may decide to take off in the summer to another city..state..where there are more opportunities.
Check into tax returns of 8k loan or free monies for first time home Buyers..not sure if theyre doing it this year but if they are...you can buy a trailer..a MOVEABLE ONE.
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ange3401   in reply to momndawson
Listen..
you keep repeating you have been in Managment for 18YEARS??Not 1 or 5 or even 10 but 18 YRS??And you do no have monies for 2 months rent????You have a 3 yr old daughter and an 8 yr old Son correct?No Family yet you took a job from 3-6 am..so WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?Do you leave them alone?You said you do not pay for daycare so we can assume you leave a 3yr old home alone..when someone could see you leaving early...break in..molest...kidnap..fire..choking...hit their head anything could happen!I read your posts and honestly ...YOU DIDNT GET IN THIS MESS OVERNIGHT!Regardless of your abusive kids dad etc..you have 18 yrs of work and NO MONEY???You have made some serious POOR decesions in your life.Until you realize your patterns and do things DIFFERENT..you will continue this cycle of maddness and things only get WORST!
Heres a plan of action for you My Dear..take it for what its worth.
I seriously doubt working 3 hrs a day delivering newspapers is gonna help..your License is probably suspended or going to be.
1-Get a job as a WAITRESS or Bartender at a local dive Bar A place that will pay you cash FOR NOW.
2-You receive Food stamps right?
3-Your Daughter is 3..GET HER WIC
4-Get Medicaid for YOU
5-Start seeing a Counselor for DEPRESSION...document it and get a doctors notice to say you are DEPRESSED,
6-Take the Doctors notice and CALL A FREE ATTORNEY WHO SPECIALIZES IN SSI....go to GOOGLE and look for one(they get paid when you do).
You and your Kids have a better change with an Attorney than getting denied over 2 yrs..they deny EVERYONE 2 times.It make take a year or 2 however..its retrocactive..and it does not hurt if you dont...at least you will get your mind right once you take antidepressants.
7-Get back 7k for tax returns in about a month..go buy an AIRSTREAM trailer or something large enough and cheap enough for under 2k.Park in someones yard and pay 300 per month or at a NICE RESORT RV Park etc...its yours..its paid for... and you can sell it for CASH once your in a better position.
8-Go to CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT-HRS-FOOD STAMPS and tell them you need AFDC>>CASH..
and you clean houses or waitress..bartend etc..
9-HRS will PAY FOR YOUR DAYCARE...work from home on a computer at night..or day
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molly123   in reply to sandadeegirl
Hi sandaeegirl I would be interested in having you and your son live with me call me 931 675 4285 or 652 7886
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molly123   in reply to tonyaR1825
Hi tonya iam in need of a roommate my phone number 931 675 4285 0r 652 7886
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tfr73   in reply to tfr73
If u want to take it let me know and give me away to contact u and i dont want anything in return for doing for u
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tfr73   in reply to tonyaR1825
Hey tonya i have a place that i need help paying or a roomate and if u and ur child like to come and be roomates u well to
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RblTink   in reply to momndawson
If anyone is around the Memphis area and has a job the Mid South Corporate Housing people help find homes for people. They are apartments 1-3 bedrooms and usually cost between $68-$91 a night, but could help if you have income coming in.
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tonyaR1825
I am 7months pregnant an need help I am being kicked out by the baby father and have no where to go I am currently on bed rest for preterm contractions and he knows this but obviously doesn't care I would greatly appreciate as much help as I can get from anyone with a place for me and my unborn child...please help me
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linda641   in reply to Michelle1985
Hi Michelle, I also live in Murfreesboro, hope things are going better for you
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sassyTina
Im soooo sorrry of ur suitation..plzzzz contact me in signal mnt tn..423-580-4793 Tina
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Michelle1985
I am not sure where you are from, but I am here in murfreesboro Tennessee & I am in the same situation as you, I just left an abusive relationship as well, I called Imperial Gardens in Smyrna they sayed that they go by 30% of my income.. So you may want to try there.. I really hopes this helps
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sandadeegirl
 in response to Starshine...   Great source of info- thanks Sandadee
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sandadeegirl
I FEEL FOR YOU ,I WAS IN THE EXACT SITUATION, GOT EVICTED,AND AM NOW HOMELESS WITH A NINE YEAR OLD SON THATS DISABLED. WENT BACK TO HIM AND STILL WE ARE HOMELESS.I COULDN'T GET ANY HELP IN NASHVILLE. I JUST FEEL LIKE OUR COUNTRY COULD CARE LESS AND ITS EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF! I JUST GIVE UP! TOO TIRED OF IT ALL!!!
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howaboutthis

Relocation?
A program that recently started in East Tennessee is aimed to help the homeless and those facing homelessness.

The Tennessee Valley Coalition to End Homelessness is headquartered in Maryville. It serves 12 counties including:

* Anderson
* Blount
* Campbell
* Claiborne
* Cocke
* Grainger
* Hamblen
* Jefferson
* Loudon
* Monroe
* Sevier
* Union

The coalition is part of a national program called the Homeless Prevention and Rapid Re-Housing Program (HPRP).
865-982-3454

http://www.wate.com/global/story.asp?s=12242004

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Starshine
 in response to momndawson...   It is darn if you do and darn if you don't ..CAll your state reps and the White House and I mean it and email and fax if you can as the only way they will help anyone out if you do that...All shelters are filled here too. hugs and I know to say wish you the best doesn't cut it when you are stuck between a rock and hard place.
hugs to you
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momndawson
 in response to Starshine...   In order to go to a domestic violence shelter here..you have to show that you are being abused. They need the police report..or they have to actually help u get out of a dangerous situation. I tried that route already.For any shelter here..you have to have written verification to show why you need to be there.
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Starshine
 in response to momndawson...   I am so sorry that this isn't working for you and hope things get better..You hate to lie to get into a shelter but this is beyond being pain stupid that you can't get into a place. I think at this point I say hey abused or whatever..Too bad things aren't improving do call the White House...
Best of luck to you..
Starshine
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momndawson
 in response to Starshine...   Yes Ive called all the shelters..some on that list are several hours away from where I am though. I applied with Modest needs..but have to fax them my paperwork..and they require a bank account but my account is closed because after living off my savings for a couple months it was overdrawn and charged off. St.Vincent DePauls here referred me to Good Samaritan which refused assistance because they said i dont meet their criteria since I was fired and they are funded through FEMA. There is no national shared housing here where I am in TN..actually there isnt a lot of anything when it comes to help at all. What I find funny is that there are plenty of places for single men or abused women or drug and alcohol addicts..but only one that will take in normal everyday mothers with children..and its on a 6 month minimum waiting list presently. 211 here has given me the numbers to 5 places for help..all of which have denied assistance. There is no emergency housing in Johnson City TN or anywhere in East TN at all...there used to be but as I have been told from Knoxville to where I am with every agency I have called..they cut emergency housing out a few years ago.
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Starshine
 in response to momndawson...   Hello
Did you try calling all the shelters listed that I put down for you? There has to be some place for you to stay. And did you put in your application for modestneeds.org. yet?? or applied with St. Vincent de Pauls in the earlier link help with rent etc I gave you? And did you check with nationalshared housing the link I gave you as an option for living arrangements.?
I know section 8 has a waiting list everywhere and some are shorter than others.
that is the best I can dig up except to call 211 and say you need emergency housing and I think I addressed that.
Wishing you better times indeed
Starshine
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